Thoughts On Being A Single Twin

March 26, 2019

We have shared several relationship topics recently, and we have gotten such a good response, so it was requested that we talk more about being a single twin, or it could apply to those of you who all are single out of all your friends!

We talked about this more in this podcast episode, if you all are interested. Before we get into that, we wanted to talk about this spring look featuring our current favorite lace kimono duster from Sole Society.

Samantha styled her shorter one in this post last week, and today, I am styling this longer one that is more ivory-colored for spring. What is so great about this duster is that you can wear it with white jeans and a white tank like I did, or pair it over a swimsuit for the beach or pool. You could also wear it over a dress or romper that is solid colored!

For accessories (our fave part), I threw on this round bag, which I have legit been wearing every single day since I got it. It also comes in the reverse colors with tan outside and white on the inside, and it has a longer strap so you can wear it crossbody or on your shoulder.

These neutral wedges from Sole Society are so comfy and they are the perfect height to wear with shorts and shorter skirts. We literally wear a pair of Sole Society’s shoes a couple times a week at least just because they are so comfortable and they are a great price point–usually under $100. Also, most of their pieces are vegan!

Now, for the topic of being single: As you all know, I went through a breakup in December, so I am really taking this time to focus on myself. I have honestly never been so content with being single, and I kind of love it. So much that I don’t really have an interest right now to date, which is so unlike me, ha!

Of course, you all know that Sam is in a long-term relationship with an amazing guy, and I couldn’t be happier for her. She deserves it so much, and without sounding weird, she earned it. She had been through so much with dating, and she met a great guy, and they are a great match for each other.

With that being said, I would be lying if there weren’t times that I wasn’t envious, or didn’t want the same thing for myself. After some of my relationships, I was just angry, and took it out on her because it wanted what she had, but after my last relationship, I felt differently. I respected what she has in hers, and am so thankful to have her support and her boyfriend, Taylor’s support.

They both invite me to hang out with them all of the time, which is so sweet! They let me tag along to dinner, face masks, movies, etc. Of course, I have taken this time to be social and make friends, but it is nice to have them around, too. Taylor is like a brother to me, so I always vent to him about guys and all of that. Being twins, it is crucial that we like who each other are dating. We are so close, and know each other best, so if one of us is dating someone where there is tension, or just not a good relationship, it will never work.

Twins are such a unique dynamic, so it can be tricky to date a twin. I think it really takes a certain person to be confident enough to date a twin, and I have learned that along the way. Things happen for a reason, and while being single is not always fun, a huge factor is mindset.

You have to be as okay as you can be with being single. It is not easy going through breakups, but talking about it with friends, family members, and focusing on your happiness is so important.

For me, embracing this time to focus on me and be selfish has been everything. I am loving this time, and my sister has been so supportive. I feel like I can be open with her, as she can be with me. Our relationship isn’t perfect, but I am so grateful for her and couldn’t imagine my life without her.