If you all follow me on Instagram, which I am sure most of you all do, you know that I have been sharing more about my anxiety, dating life, etc. I’ve also talked about how I have a hard time separating work from my personal life, as it all seems to blend together. I struggle with “allowing” myself to take time off, and no be working. The truth is, it is SO tough for me, and much tougher than I would like to admit.
As I was thinking about it and also discussing it with my therapist, I realized that I have always been this way. Especially in high school and college, I always put a ton of pressure on myself to succeed. It wasn’t good enough to pass or get B’s, I had to have all A’s (which didn’t always happen, much to my disappointment).
I realized that most of this stems from being afraid of failure. I don’t want/like to put work away because part of me feels guilty, and also feels like I am going to be behind, and not be doing everything I can to succeed. I know it sounds silly because everyone needs a break, but like I said, I have always been this way.
Since I know I am not alone in this, I wanted to share some ways to work on this fear of failure (some I am attempting to use in my life).
Shift your mindset
Instead of thinking that you are going to fail, and it will be a waste of time, tell yourself that it is all a learning experience, and it is not failure if you took something away from it.
Visualize overcoming that failure or fear
I, personally, get anxiety when I think about a situation that I think won’t go the way I want it to (major planner over here), or I am just not feeling great about it, I have read it can be good to visualize whatever it may be going well and smoothly. You can also even visualize the obstacles you may face, and how you will overcome them. That seems to put my mind at ease sometimes.
Separate facts from fear
Ask yourself if the things that are making you anxious are really facts, or just you creating thoughts in your head. A lot of times we are all creating stories in our minds that are not even true, and will never be.
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