Happy Monday! Hope you all had a good weekend. We both slept in pretty late this weekend, which was much needed! One of us (Alexis) went on a short run yesterday and we made a late brunch of blueberry waffles with coconut cream. SO GOOD! We also got to spend some time with our family, and that is always nice.
On a different note, I (Alexis) wanted to write about a topic that a lot of you have requested, and one that I think is therapeutic to write about sometimes. I don’t like to get too personal on here, especially about relationships, just because some stuff has to be private, you know? I also think that it is something we all go through at some point, and it is comforting to know other people go through it, too.
In 2018, I went through two breakups, so the beginning of 2019 has been the year of focusing on myself and my self care and love. I am not going to sit here and tell you either breakup was easy to go through, because it isn’t, but I can tell you, as cliche as it sounds, I have learned more about myself with each breakup, and even more since I have been single.
Of course, everyone says dating and relationships are about learning about who you ultimately want to spend your life with, and with that comes figuring out who you are, what you want, characteristics you don’t want in a partner, parts of their lives you want to be supportive of (or not).
I truly believe that. It is about refining and refining, and figuring out who is the best match for YOU, and compliments you.
I can tell you I learned A TON from my relationships and breakups. I’ve had experiences with addictions, insecurities, some cases that bordered on verbal abuse, and so much more that I swore I would never put up with, but again, it happens, and we all go through it at some point or another. Have I sat there and cried for hours, felt sorry for myself, and just been down? 100 percent.
You have to go through those feelings and really deal with the breakup. Burying those feelings, or not addressing them will only make it worse.
When I was in each relationship, I was so wrapped up in it that I didn’t realize how much I felt like I had changed in the relationship, and that I had lost who I was. I do think you can evolve as a person, but you should’t lose who you are and your values. In some of them, I found myself constantly stressed and angry, and ready to snap at any point, which is not a way to live.
With some of my breakups, I had been drained emotionally and had so many rollercoasters of emotions throughout it, that once it ended, I was ready to move on quicker than others.
After my last relationship, I expected to feel ready to jump back into the dating scene (which is a whole other post in itself), but honestly, I wasn’t, and still am not.
I am truly taking this time to focus on ME, which I really haven’t done in a few years. As silly as it sounds, I didn’t want to end some of my other relationships because the thought of having to date again, and do this whole song and dance felt like torture. Don’t get me wrong, it is great to meet people, but it does get old after a while.
The other times I was ready to jump back in, I was just ready to date again. It had nothing to do with rebounding, or not being able to be alone. This time it just feels different.
It is comforting to know I have so many people in my corner, always supporting me, and also knowing and trusting it will all fall into place when it is right. I have my moments, thinking that it feels like everyone is in a relationship and happy, and feel like I am just getting older, and time is passing me by, but then I think about how much I have learned and grown, and know it is all supposed to be this way.
I also want to note that what you see on social media is not how it always appears. Of course, there are happy moments, but there is so much behind the scenes that we don’t all get to see. I think it is also important to realize YOU have to be ready to leave and move on. Trust me, you will know when it needs to happen. I got that intuition in ALL of my relationships, and I think that is probably the biggest factor in not regretting ending it (at least to me!)
Some of what has helped me (and what I am focusing on) is surrounding yourself with people that bring out the best in you, actually talking about it with friends or family, journaling what you love about yourself/what you don’t love, what you want in a future partner, things that you could improve on, etc. I also think this is a time to embrace doing stuff on your own time. Want to eat dinner at 5PM? Want to sleep in until 10 AM? Want to lay on the couch like a bum? Well, you can because all you have to focus on is yourself. And, yes, it feels amazing.
I am honestly just really content right now and not in any hurry to date someone, which I feel like is unlike me, but I really think this is all for a reason, and I am just feeling so grateful for my family and friends (some newer and some older), and for all of you! Like I said, I have my moments, but overall, I am so thankful.
On a side note, for those of you just here for the outfit details, which I can’t hate on, I LOVE these mules from Sole Society. We have them in blush suede and leopard and they are so comfy! We love them with this blush shrug cocoon sweater and this white tote (great for traveling or every day).
This hat (also from Sole Society) is a great spring hat when you don’t want to look too beach-y!
{ Blush Shrug Sweater | Blush Snakeskin Mule Sneakers | White Tote Bag |Neutral Hat | Denim Shorts | Mesh Cami | Curling Iron | Nail Color | Toe Polish | Necklace | BRACELETS: David Yurman Cable Bracelets here, here, and here and Cartier Love Bracelet | RINGS: David Yurman Ring here and here | WATCH: Apple Watch and Leopard Band }
In partnership with Sole Society.
Happy Wednesday! We know we have been talking about our health struggles in our 
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So, now about our health update: As you all know, we were struggling with Hypothyroidism for a while now, and for the past two years, dealing with a range of issues such as hormonal imbalances, weight gain, inflammation, food intolerances that we had attributed to Adrenal Fatigue and Leaky Gut. We have done every test under the sun, haha, and have seen pretty much every kind of specialist, and are honestly feeling pretty frustrated. Not only have we spent a lot of money, but also a lot of energy and time. For any of you that have experienced health issues, or are going through something right now, we totally understand what you are feeling. 
We had a few of you all reach out and suggest that it could be related to our breast implants. We did read up on it, and definitely recommend checking that out if you do have implants. Fortunately and unfortunately for us, our symptoms started way before we got our implants put in, so we don’t think it its connected. We are not saying that it hasn’t contributed to us not feeling our best, but we don’t think it is the main cause. 
As we mentioned, we have seen several specialists and functional medicine doctors, and while they have helped a little bit, we don’t really feel that much better. We went through some really strong, medical-grade heavy metal detoxes that left us feeling even worse than we did before we started that, which is super frustrating. Of course, not many of you all would realize we aren’t feeling well (and pretty much like crap most days) because we don’t vocalize that daily, but it is tough. We have both gained at least 10-15 pounds, and honestly, just feel puffy and inflamed. Nobody ever wants to experience that. We were also SUPER low on energy, so working out was extremely challenging. We honestly went from working out/running 5-6 days a week to maybe 2 or 3. We would just honestly get to the gym and not be able to do anything. What used to be a typical workout for us, felt like a marathon that we just couldn’t finish.
So, you’re probably wondering what we are doing now, and where we are at health-wise. Well, we stumbled across 
So, now after almost two weeks of eating this way, we can definitely say we have a ton more energy during our workouts, which is a great sign for us. We are hoping it means we are on the way to feeling better overall, and truly healing our body naturally. We will definitely keep you all posted on our journey. We are planning on eating chicken and other foods eventually, but just want to focus on feeling better first!
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As many of y’all know we are super petite, aka 5’1″, so finding denim that fits us well can be a struggle! When we stumbled upon 
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We wanted to share some of our favorite
And, since we are on the topic of the perfect fit, we wanted to talk about what we think the “perfect fit” is in a relationship, and why it is so important to us, and why we think it should important to you as well ;) 
Obviously we both have been in relationships, and have learned so much from all of them! We know dating can be hard, and not the most fun at times, but you have to do it to figure out what you want and don’t want in a relationship. We both honestly keep our private life, well, pretty private, but this is something we want to open up about a little bit. You may think you have fun with someone and could see yourself spending a lot of time with them, but sometimes that isn’t enough. We both think the foundation for a great relationship is dating and being with someone that you’re a perfect fit with. 
You’re probably wondering, “Well, what does that even mean?” To us, that means being with someone that you have something in common with, and not just loving to workout and eat. Yes, those are important, but it also about values. Having common interests, sharing the same values and beliefs, similar life goals, etc. It may not seem that important in the beginning, but you will find out sooner than later, that it really is. We personally don’t believe in the theory that “opposites attract”. It may work for some people, but generally, for us, we both would prefer to be with people that are similar to us. Of course, you’re not going to be identical to your partner, but similar is what works best for us!
You want to be with someone that compliments you in the best way possible. We aren’t talking about getting actual compliments from someone. We are talking about being with someone that makes you a better person, brings out the best qualities in you, and just makes you better overall. We have both been in relationships where we make that person better, and more positive all around, but we haven’t necessarily gotten that on our ends. It is important that BOTH people are getting that benefit. 
When you’re with the “perfect fit”, it should feel like you’re hanging out with your good friend, and it just flows. It shouldn’t feel forced at all. Of course, it is not all rainbows and sunshine, but it really should be mutually beneficial. The other person should make you want to be better, and not change yourself in any way. For example, you may dislike running, but maybe they will inspire you to get more into running and train with you (speaking from personal experience ;) ) 
As many of y’all know we are twins, and SUPER close. And, when we say we are close, we mean it. Literally, nothing could tear us apart. We work together, currently live together, and are pretty similar overall. That does not mean we don’t fight at all times of the day. If you think you fight a lot with your siblings, think again 😉 There is probably not a moment in the day when we are not arguing, but we wouldn’t change it for anything!
We are teaming up today with 
It is so funny because we will be arguing about anything (chores, work, household stuff, our dog, you name it), and we forget people are around, and they just think it is so entertaining and hilarious. We will be screaming (and sometimes get physical, oops!), and then a few minutes later, it is like nothing ever happened. 
There is just such an unexplainable bond. We literally trust each other with anything, and are so grateful every day that we have each other. We refer to each other as “hubby” because we literally fight like a married couple. We don’t know any different, but it is just so unique. In college, we majored in the same degree (Management Information Systems), and had a lot of the same classes. We were obviously a little competitive, but supported each other’s strengths and weaknesses. We always helped each other out, no matter what.
We are so similar that we even struggle with the same health conditions. Everything with us is pretty similar down the line. We do have a few differences in personality, of course, but health-wise, it has been a blessing to have someone that knows what you’re going through, and can fully-relate, and not make you feel crazy at times ;)
And, now about these ADORABLE outfits! We are only 5’1″, so finding dresses and jumpsuits that fit us well is so tough sometimes! We found both of these pieces at 
