We are jogger girls, and we know that many of y’all are, too! We found this perfect black pair that fits AMAZINGLY. You all will love these, and the best part is they don’t wrinkle at all. We love that this pair comes in a range of sizing (we have size xxs on for reference).
We found this great pair of joggers (and the rest of this look) at Nordstrom. Everything we have on is a Nordstrom made brand. We love how these cuff at the bottom, so they give you a clean, fitted look, without being too baggy.
There are so many ways you can style black joggers, so we thought we would share some of our favorites:
Wear with a fitted tank
We scooped up this fitted black ribbed tank and absolutely LOVE it. It is affordable, and comes in some great colors. We are wearing size xs for reference. Definitely want to pick up a few more colors.
Add a denim jacket
A denim jacket elevates any look. Best part is you can wear it all year long, and it matches everything– such a good neutral. Love the wash on this one and we have on size xs for reference.
Pair with comfy flat sandals
These double strap slide sandals are SO comfortable. Very padded and easy to walk in all summer long. These come in some great color options (we have on size 6.5 for reference). The sparkle details are so fun and add a pop to any outfit.
A pointed shoe always makes your legs look 10x longer (us petites can always benefit from that), so we love pairing a black pump like this one with joggers to dress up the outfit, and also make you look taller.
We are still lazy when it comes to shopping, and since we needed this look for an upcoming trip (this makes a great travel look), we ordered this on Nordstrom’s website, and picked up the same day using their curbside pickup. Talk about convenient. One of the Nordstrom associates brought our order right to our car. Highly recommend giving it a try!
I had one of you message me and ask if I could share my tips on how I am navigating dating, and not meeting my person, and also how to deal with feeling like you’re not going to ever meet someone (and the pressure to meet a certain timeline).
Let me start off by saying, I totally get it. I am with you and I feel exactly what you’re feeling. Once I started opening up and sharing with you all, I realized how many of you can relate to exactly what I am going through (or what we all are going through).
Societal Timeline
Growing up, I always imagined myself at this age (almost 30), to be married with at least one child. Well, life never goes as planned, as we know. Life has different plans for me, and I am learning the not-so-easy thing of embracing that and knowing that it is meant to be this way. I have so much to be grateful for and because I have been single for all this time, I have been able to really focus on my career and be selfish.
You all also may know I am an identical twin, and that Samantha is newly engaged. We have hit every milestone in our life together, and are extremely close, making this time even more challenging for me. The natural instinct is to want my own partner to be able to go through these milestones together. As I shared in our podcast, the first few days of the engagement were very tough for me. Everything I had known for the last 29 years was going to change, and I felt like I was going through a “separation” with my twin. I would be okay for a moment, and then would be a mix of anger and sad.
Like everything else, I just needed to get adjusted, and after a few days, I felt like I could *truly* be happy for her and Taylor. It wasn’t that I couldn’t or didn’t want to happy for them, I just was struggling and juggling all of my emotions and trying to wrap my head around what was changing around me.
Dating History
I have currently been single for almost two and a half years. This is probably the longest I have been single, ever. Did I think I would still be single by now? No. I remind myself that I could be in a relationship just to say I am in one, but I am choosing to not be. I am being intentional with who I go on a date with, who I spend time with, who I date.
Before that I had several long-term relationships, all of which I learned A TON from. Everyone says you learn what you want and don’t want from who you date, and I could not agree more with that. You would never know what qualities you didn’t want or actually want if you didn’t put yourself out there. I thought I could live with certain qualities in people, and learned that, nope, can’t live with them, but doesn’t mean someone else will be the same way.
Every time I would go through a breakup, I would meet another guy pretty quickly after I would start looking (when I was ready to date again). However, this has not been the case this time around, and that could be because I am looking for different things.
I started journaling on and off a couple years ago when my mom got me this 5 Minute Diary. Now, it has become part of my evening routine. I usually write a few things I am grateful for, what I did that day, and also something positive that happened that day. I have really enjoyed it mainly to look back at older entries and so what has changed since that entry. Sometimes not much has changed, but I am reminded of how much I have grown mentally and emotionally from even months prior.
Dating Apps
Where do I even start with these apps?! First off, I have had success in meeting guys on here and actually dating them longer term. All of my previous relationships have been from people I have met on a dating app (Hinge and Bumble). I have been on the dating apps on and off for the last almost two years. I have definitely been on a lot of dates and dated some people for a couple months here and there, but ultimately, have not met my person.
Samantha met her fiancé on Bumble back in 2017, right as I was going through a breakup. I have heard SO many success stories from the dating apps, but I have also heard so many bad stories, including my own from these apps.
I really think that they have been around for a while now, and people abuse them. Some people do not them seriously, and are just on there to kill time, play games, lie, get attention, etc. Yes, I have caught people lying (and not just about petty things like height). I have caught three people pretending to be someone else (catfishing), and I legit could have been on that TV show, haha.
With that being said, I do think that there are people on those apps that are serious about finding their person, and using it for the “right” reasons. Unfortunately, I have either not come across them yet, or I wasn’t as attracted to them as I felt that i should be— which is so hard.
I am currently taking a break from the apps because I felt that mentally I *really* needed it. I also now feel like I am not doing “anything” to meet guys since I am off the apps. I could be better about working at coffee shops and going out of my routine more, which is something I am working on,
You all sent me some success stories, and messages about feeling the same as me, which I will share below. I think it helps to read other people’s stories:
Also, some food for thought:
I would by lying to you if I said I have it all under control and I am not “worried” about finding my match, or that I don’t think about dating all of the time because I do. It is easy to feel that way and also to start imagining your life working out and meshing well with someone after just a few dates (of course not saying that publicly 😉 ), only for it to all fall apart and not workout in the end. I have to remind myself that there is a much much better plan for me out there, and nothing that is meant to be will ever pass me by, as hard as that is to hear.
I am SO grateful for your support and you sharing your personal struggles with me because we are all truly in this together. Doesn’t matter what city you’re in, or what age you are, we ALL go through this, and that is so comforting to know.
Ghosting:
I could write a whole book on this. If you are reading this and you have been ghosted once or ten times, I am with YOU. Yes, I have ghosted people in the past, but I have really made it a point to NOT ghost people. First off, it says a lot about you when you do that, and also I think it is only right to let that person know that you don’t see it working out, but you really enjoyed getting to meet them. You don’t need to give any huge explanations or essays, but just ignoring someone’s messages and disappearing, is wrong.
I have done it before, and the main reason I did it was because I felt badly, and didn’t want to make it more awkward, BUT, you are making it worse by just leaving them hanging, making them feel like they messed up. Trust me, just let them know.
Rejection:
Similar to ghosting, rejection can be HARD. Remember though, rejection is redirection. You may have just saved yourself from a bad relationship, or someone who is not ready or meant to be with you. It sucks in the moment, but every time I have been rejected in the past, I was always being redirected to an even better spot.
My Tips
Share your thoughts/experiences
I am very vocal with my thoughts. I talk to my friend sand family all of the time about what I am feeling and going through. I think it really helps to get it out. Cry if you feel like crying. I can’t tell you how many times I have cried in the last few months, weeks, days. If you feel like you can’t talk to your friends or family, a therapist is so helpful, too.
Tell people you’re single
We had a matchmaker on our podcast a few years ago, and she said to tell everyone you’re single, in a non-obnoxious way, of course. Maybe they have single friends or family members that you didn’t know about and can set you up, never know!
Journal your thoughts
I talked about this earlier, but I cannot recommend this enough. It helps SO much and iI find it so therapeutic writing all my thoughts down.
Turn being single into a positive
Being single is not always easy and fun, but there is something to be said about being able to do what YOU want all of the time. No where to be, nobody to balance, nobody to buy gifts for, haha. Not saying that those aren’t worth it, but hey, alone time is nice sometimes!
Say YES
Always take an opportunity to go somewhere new, even if it is out of your comfort zone. It could be where you meet someone new. I am a homebody so getting out, and going somewhere Im invited is not easy, but I never regret it.
Trust your gut
I can’t emphasize this more. Your gut always knows! If you have a bad feeling about someone, or a situation, you are usually right.
Be up front
As I get older, and because of my prior experiences, I am learning to be up front with what I want and am looking for. If I am looking for a serious relationship, I am trying to be upfront with that on the first or second dates, so I don’t waste either of our times.
Slingshot Theory
Have no expectations
This one is a hard one for me because I always have expectation in my head. The best way to be is to have ZERO expectations and then you won’t be disappointed, and can be open-minded.
In case you missed our last episode of An Extra Dose, you can listen to that here!
A little about this episode:
On this episode of An Extra Dose Podcast, we are sharing everything you need to know about celery juice. We are talking about the benefits, how we make it, how long we have been doing it, and more. We are also discussing the differences between different types of juicers and which juicers we have personally used.
Happy almost April! Can’t believe spring is here. We wanted to share of our favorite Express looks we found in March. Some of these are great for spring travels, and some are great for the office/work. This first looks is our favorite: all white. These white jeans are so cute and we love the cropped length (size 00) and we paired it with this white tank that is very flattering (wearing size xs).
We love that Express carries shorter lengths in bottoms, and also petite sizing, so everything fits us perfectly!
*click each picture to shop*
Flattering White Tank
This white tank is so great and is lined, so it is not see through at all!
Business Casual Looks
We put some outfit ideas together for the office that you can mix and match. We love how everything is so versatile and functional! We love pairing a blazer with joggers or pants and some pumps.
Cuffed Denim Shorts
We love these cuffed denim shorts because they’re stretchy and not too short! We have size 00 on and we paired it with this tan tank that is very flattering because of the cut (wearing size xs).
Soft Jersey Pieces
These jersey pieces are SO comfy! They can all be mix and matched and worn to dinner, errands, or the office. We have size xxs in most for reference.
All Black Outfit
We paired these black joggers that you can dress up for work or date night (wearing size xxs) and this black v-neck is a great piece to layer with (size xs).
For an office look, we paired a white blazer on top (size xxs).
We have had some requests to share an updated workout routine. You all know we have been into staying active and working out for a long time. Our workout routine has shifted and varied in the last couple years from a lot of cardio and weight training to walks and pilates and lower impact workouts, and now into a mix of both at-home workouts and gym workouts.
We think it is good to have a balance of workouts that are higher intensity, and some that are lower intensity. We do a mix of all types of workouts, and some days yoga or a longer walk outside.
Before we get into workout specifics, we wanted to share about this AMAZING line, Freely, available at Academy. Funny story, we were at Academy a month ago, and our mom picked out this super soft long-sleeve twisted top (see further in post), and had to have it. We ended up loving the brand, too, and are so excited to share their cute pieces with you!
We love that Freely’s line is versatile, so you can wear it to yoga or a workout, and then straight to errands or lunch with friends. Also, their pieces don’t even have to be worn for a workout, they can be for errands, which we love!
Their pieces are all SUPER soft- literally like butter and will have you rubbing and petting yourself while wearing it all day, haha.
We paired it with these super comfy slip on sneakers (have laces, but no tying required!). They also come in a pink color, and are so lightweight! We have size 7 for reference, and they fit true-to-size.
We are wearing the bra with the same leggings we shared above, but it in black in size s. We love how comfy these are, and black goes with everything!
How pretty are the straps in the back?!
On top, we threw over this lightweight tie-dye pullover. We love that this could be worn with jeans or shorts, too! It is so soft and comfy. We have size s on.
Our workout schedules differ a little bit in that Alexis has the gym membership, and Samantha comes once in a while and works out mostly at home. We both love working out at home because it saves time, money, and is just convenient. At home we will ride our Peloton bike, do weight/strength workouts, yoga flows, pilates, and jump on our rebounder.
Gym workout
If we go to the gym, we will usually do cardio on the stairmaster, elliptical, or walk on the treadmill. We usually do 30-35 minutes of cardio, sometimes more, sometimes less. This usually depends if we get caught up on our phones answering a message or email. After that, we will lift weights and separate it by muscle group like legs, biceps and triceps, shoulders, or back.
We usually try to go one one walk a day (shoot for 2 miles).
Rest day
We love staying active, so we usually workout 6 days a week, and have one day where we walk or do a slower-flow yoga.
In partnership with Freely and Academy Sports + Outdoors.
We have been loving these Amazon dresses for spring and summer, and wanted to share a roundup of some of our favorites! All of these are affordable and can be styled so many ways. We haven’t done an Amazon roundup in a while, so we thought this would be perfect to share since Spring Break is here, and everyone will be traveling soon or for the summer.
